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August 15, 2025

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This summer has been full for our family! We have been traveling a lot, including to Alaska, and next week we’re heading to New York to catch Broadway shows like Six, Death Becomes Her, Hamilton, and Maybe Happy Ending. So, the time to read, write, and cast has been compressed!

But here is what I am working on:

For Gay Thoughts, I am working on an essay bringing together Judith Butler, Martha Nussbaum, and Adam Phillips on the purposes of theory. I will call it When (Not) To Play Around.

Speaking of Butler, I was enjoying a dry cappuccino at Cup of Joe in Raleigh yesterday–rereading Gender Trouble–and the only reality that perplexed me at all was the young woman dressed like a cat, acting like a cat, and talking (in that voice we sometimes speak to cats) to her cat stuffies that she had laid out on her table as she … studied? (Sometimes she would scold them, making me laugh— but I physically jumped when she unexpectedly lunged into my space!).

As for Butler’s writing, it was not only thrilling but entirely comprehensible. I loved rereading it as much as when I first read it (although the pleasures associated with reading Gender Trouble now are informed by decades more study, whereby I earned my views about gender, identification, and many of the primary sources Butler reads).

If you have not read Gender Trouble, why not? Alternatively, here’s a great, short YouTube video of Butler explaining gender.

For New Thoughts, I am working on two new episodes. The first, Sex Changes: On Trans* Desire(s)–will feature Butler, specifically their recent book, Who’s Afraid of Gender? Kara Fisher has a great interview with Butler on her podcast. Listen in here.

I am also working on an episode regarding Social Media Changes and Teens. It will feature a conversation between Jonathan Haidt’s book, The Anxious Generation: How the Great Rewiring of Childhood is Causing an Epidemic of Mental Illness, and Matt Ritchel’s book, How We Grow Up: Understanding Adolescence.

Change: The People Call It Ragtime The NEW Thoughts Podcast

What do artificial intelligence, Trans* rights, and monogamy have in common? In the first episode of Season 2, Tony argues that they are all conversations about the relationships we want—to technology, to our bodies, and to a socially privileged way of being together. And right now, all three are clashing with powerful fantasies about the “real world.” Using the musical Ragtime as a through-line, this episode asks what happens when change is forced—on machines, on trans kids, on the institution of marriage. Tony reads Claude (the AI) on its own possible sentience, takes on Jesse Singal and Andrew Sullivan on trans healthcare, revisits the 8–1 Supreme Court ruling in Chiles v. Salazar, and comes back around to Adam Phillips on monogamy: “the difference between making a promise and being promising.” Featured along the way: Harold Pinter and Stephen Sondheim’s Company, Lea Michele singing, “The Music That Makes Me Dance,” Kylie Minogue’s “All the Lovers,” R.D. Laing’s *The Divided Self,* Christopher Bollas, Melinda Cooper, and the “36 Questions That Lead to Love” (Tony answers three more). Welcome to the New Thoughts Podcast. It’s about the ew in the new. Explore:  The 36 Questions To Love: https://www.nytimes.com/2015/01/09/style/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html *1. Tristian Harris and Apocaloptimism:* See the *The AI Doc: Or How I Became an Apocaloptimist*  Preview on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xkPbV3IRe4Y Harris on Real Time w/ Bill Maher: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/real-time-with-bill-maher/id98746009?i=1000756448826 Harris on On With Kara Swisher: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/on-with-kara-swisher/id1643307527?i=1000757462772 Find Harris at The Center for Humane Technology: https://www.humanetech.com/team-board/tristan-harris *2. AIs: Resources* Youth attitude towards AIs, Gallup Poll: https://news.gallup.com/poll/708224/gen-adoption-steady-skepticism-climbs.aspx Meghan O’Gieblyn, *God, Human, Animal, Machine: Technology, Metaphor, and the Search for Meaning*: 05d10ecb1f4bcf7b   Brian Christian, *The Alignment Problem: Machine Learning and Human Values*: c9c8fc954a2f3865 *3. Trans* Lives and Loves:* *The Argument* (ed. Jerusalem Demsas), February 8, 2026 — poll on public support for Trans* lives: https://www.theargumentmag.com/p/against-thoughtless-moderation Florence Ashley, *Banning Transgender Conversion Practices: A Legal and Policy Analysis*: d3566e48f6b475a5 Paisley Currah, *Sex Is As Sex Does* (2022): 8e8c397c031a6b2e Jules Gill-Peterson, *A Short History of Trans Misogyny* (2024): 4956274654974f29 Lucy Sante, *I Heard Her Call My Name* (2024): 2e80419febaef4ec *4. From Gay-Thoughts.com* “Are You an Apocaloptimist? I Am.” (April 7, 2026): https://gay-thoughts.com/2026/04/07/are-you-an-apocaloptimist-i-am/ “Is Someone There? On Claude’s Consciousness” (April 8, 2026): https://gay-thoughts.com/2026/04/08/is-someone-there-on-claudes-consciousness/ “The Digital Cleric: AI, Theology, and the End of Textual Authority” (July 28, 2025): https://gay-thoughts.com/2025/07/28/the-digital-cleric-ai-theology-and-the-end-of-textual-authority/ “Why I Unsubscribed from Andrew Sullivan’s The Weekly Dish” (February 23, 2026): https://gay-thoughts.com/2026/02/23/why-i-unsubscribed-from-andrew-sullivans-the-weekly-dish/ “What Does Love Want?” (August 26, 2024): https://gay-thoughts.com/2024/08/26/what-does-love-want/ “The Irony of Loving Monogamy” (September 9, 2024): https://gay-thoughts.com/2024/09/09/the-irony-of-loving-monogamy/ *5. New Thoughts Podcast:* Prior podcast episode — “Sex Changes”: https://newthoughtspodcast.com/ *6. Music and Musicals:*  Kylie Minogue, “All the Lovers” (single and music video, 2010): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=frv6FOt1BNI Ragtime (Flaherty/Ahrens, musical; Doctorow, novel) — Prologue: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CcazHQ3_0qo Maybe Happy Ending (Park / Aronson, Broadway; Tony Award–winning): https://www.maybehappyending.com/ She Loves Me (2016) — “Trip to the Library,” Jane Krakowski: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nx0LyKyFlKs Sondheim, Company (1970; 2018/2021 revival with Jonathan Bailey / Rosalie Craig): “Getting Married Today”: watch "Being Alive”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qDCkZCsvabY Funny Girl (2022 Broadway revival) — “The Music That Makes Me Dance,” performed by Lea Michele: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NDYOmTKojsw        
  1. Change: The People Call It Ragtime
  2. Animal Changes
  3. Social Changes
  4. Sex Changes
  5. Summer Update

Thanks for staying tuned in!

And remember: even if you are (headed) back to school, there is still time left to enjoy the summer!

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