Articles for category: Queer Love

November 18, 2024

twhoshaw

maternal fear

How Fear Influenced the 2024 Election Outcome

The 2024 U.S. presidential election revealed a surprising Republican victory, driven by fear among voters, particularly regarding immigration and social changes. This fear can lead to manipulation and threatens democracy. In contrast, hope, faith, and love present pathways to overcoming fear and fostering a more compassionate political landscape.

September 12, 2024

twhoshaw

Marriage 101

Adam Phillips’s book, Monogamy, is a collection of 121 (think 1 to 1, the logic of a certain kind of relationship) provocative aphorisms. Monogamy has activated my curiosity (see here, here and, here) by highlighting what we so often ignore (and, manifestly, at our peril): the problem of (the promise of?) infidelity.   Here is my try at aphorism making: #101 Heterosexuals say they are happily married, but one can never be sure because they always declare their matrimonial bliss with a straight face. Homosexuals also say they are happily married, but not without having a laugh.

September 9, 2024

twhoshaw

The Irony of Loving Monogamy

II am no apologist for monogamy. Yet, most people desire it for themselves. And most people, even those for whom it seems to be working out well, don't seem to love monogamy. I think that is interesting. Most people don't love monogamy, but yet they still believe in it. So, it is worth asking: What promises to make loving monogamy promising? My answer is irony. Irony is the key to loving monogamy. Or so I will argue in this essay.

August 26, 2024

twhoshaw

What does love want? Our in-fidelity.

Kylie Minogue, “All The Lovers” (music video still), 2010. The music video of Kylie Minogue’s hit song, “All the Lovers” (2010) raises two questions for me: 1) What does love want? 2) What can we do about it? Watch the video: The video opens with a cup of coffee falling, splashing empty on the ground (and a man taking off his shirt); a container of milk drops, spilling out on the ground (and two more people take off their clothes), and white marshmallows light on the ground as Minogue sings to her beloved, to her love object: someone who is apparently

June 17, 2024

twhoshaw

Possessed by “Demons”

A sermon based on the Gospel of John 19:25-29 (FYI: the word “home” is NOT in the Greek text): * As Jesus is dying on the cross, the disciple he loves—the boy he loves—the one, we are told, who is responsible for the Gospel of John, is on his mind. In the final moments of Jesus’ life, his beloved’s future is his ultimate concern. We don’t know the identity of the man Jesus loved, but what we do know is that he is the only disciple Jesus is explicitly said to have loved. We also know that he is the