June 14, 2025
Gay Erasure? No thanks.
Who is afraid of gayness? We, all of us, need gayness. We need gay marriage. We need gay pride. We need gay parenting. May it be so. Amen.
Articles for category: Gay Love
March 24, 2025
What is a “cute Asian girl”? On Desire & Love in Real Life
Sam Rockwell’s monologue on White Lotus: Season 3 (E6), wherein he plays a mercenary named Frank, is a beautiful, surprising, and captivating moment. Why? What is it about? Love.
September 12, 2024
Marriage 101
Adam Phillips’s book, Monogamy, is a collection of 121 (think 1 to 1, the logic of a certain kind of relationship) provocative aphorisms. Monogamy has activated my curiosity (see here, here and, here) by highlighting what we so often ignore (and, manifestly, at our peril): the problem of (the promise of?) infidelity. Here is my try at aphorism making: #101 Heterosexuals say they are happily married, but one can never be sure because they always declare their matrimonial bliss with a straight face. Homosexuals also say they are happily married, but not without having a laugh.
September 9, 2024
The Irony of Loving Monogamy
II am no apologist for monogamy. Yet, most people desire it for themselves. And most people, even those for whom it seems to be working out well, don't seem to love monogamy. I think that is interesting. Most people don't love monogamy, but yet they still believe in it. So, it is worth asking: What promises to make loving monogamy promising? My answer is irony. Irony is the key to loving monogamy. Or so I will argue in this essay.
